Three children refused to visit their father, stating that he was violent and that they had witnessed him striking their mother. The judge insulted the oldest child’s IQ. Then sentenced him and his siblings to juvenile detention, stating very specifically that there would be no contact with their mother, her family, and worst of all, no contact with other siblings. Then the judge said that they could stay in there until they bent to her will (to have a healthy relationship with the father) or graduated. They have been in juvie for over two weeks. The children in this story are 15, 10 and 9 years old.
Yes, my friends, this is a true story. A very unfortunate tale that is playing out right before our eyes. A Michigan judge has sentenced three children to juvie for refusing to visit their father. Obviously there are multiple sides to every story. I am sure that neither parent is innocent in this matter. So I am not willing to debate which parent is right. Nor am I willing to debate whether the children’s opinions are right or wrong.
What I will say is that the children are the victims here and that the court system is continuing to further victimize them. They have not stolen anything. They have not physically hurt anyone. They are not using or dealing drugs. They simply refused to spend time with a person that they consider to be violent. The judge ordered them to do it. They refused. They claim to be genuinely afraid of their father.
Even if they have been brainwashed, as the father and judge claim, they should still not be subjected to more abuse. The court order says that the “plaintiff mother” has refused all court orders. Okay, punish her. Not the children.
And let us not fail to notice that the father is perfectly fine with his children being locked up simply because he didn’t get to see them. How absolutely selfish and self-serving is that? Instead of protecting his children, he is allowing them to be further abused. Instead of respecting them, he is attempting to force them to bend to his will. Instead of seeing their feelings as real, he wants to have his way regardless of how much damage it does to them.
You do not put children in jail because they refuse to do something that makes them feel unsafe. You do not disrespect their feelings simply because they do not feel the way that you think they should. If anything, this will make the children cling even more to their mother and hate their father more than ever.
Our system is broken. Our system is so very broken. We victimize the innocent. We allow the adults’ drama to scar children for life. The court not just condoned their abuse, but actually ordered it!
UPDATE: After so much media outcry, the judge has released the children from juvie and sent them instead to summer camp. There is no word as to if they will be together or if they get to see their mother.